Just need someone to talk to who understands

I am 35 years old. I have struggled with pulling my lashes and eyebrows for several years. I started by standing in front of the mirror and looking for gray hairs for hours and pulling them out (even though I was in my 20's at that point I still found plenty!) My body would ache and I would be so exhausted and feel so bad. The problem never got bad enough to be noticeable on my head but I soon migrated to my lashes and brows instead and I cannot seem to stop pulling there no matter what I try. Right now I literally have no eyebrows or eyelashes!
I have been able to stop at times when I had a special occasion coming up or something that I wanted to look good for but overall it is a constant struggle.
I don't let anyone see me without makeup. I don't swim. I only get my haircut about once a year. I am uncomfortable in social settings. Sometimes I don't even want my husband looking at me. I am really sick and tired of living this way and I want so bad to get it under control!
I tried one time telling my doctor and she thought anti-depressants were the answer and I took them for a while in a very low dosage that did not seem to help. I have told no one else about my pulling other than my children and my husband. I also see my daughter constantly playing with her eyebrows and I am so worried that this is going to start affecting her too.
I really am looking for someone to keep me accountable. My husband understands and I have asked him to try and keep me accountable but he quits asking how I am doing after a couple of days usually and if I am not doing well then I do not bring it up.
I would love someone to communicate with through email or even to find out if there is someone in my area that needs a good friend who struggles with the same issues. I am in the South Carolina Upstate area.
Thanks for hearing me out!