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Hi,
I just joined. I decided to join a new Trich forum, since the other forum I belonged to barely updated or had anyone reply. Also, I wanted to be able to talk to someone about my trich. And I was curious if there are a lot of guys with Trich. I'd like to be able to meet those with Trich in person and hang out. I think I'd feel more confident in being myself and actually have fun without worry.
To start, I pull my eyelashes and hair. The only people that know this are my family. The only people I've directly told is a friend in jr. high (unwillingly told and who I lost touch with) and my twin sister. My brother-in-law mentioned about it, this past summer, which made me feel bad...even though he was trying to congratulate me on having eyelashes again. However, the way he said it made me feel like a freak; it was unintentional though.
If you want to read a longer history about me, I replied to the post "can anyone help me?" and wrote a long reply. Basically, I've been pulling my eyelashes since I was about 4...and I've been pulling my hair since I was about 13. I hate having this. It makes me feel really ashamed, guilty, just plain bad, like a freak, stupid, etc. etc. I really want to stop. I've had moments when I've stopped, but I end up relapsing. Also, I feel even more guilty since my twin sister began pulling her hair. She began about 2 years ago; I feel like it's my fault since she would see me do it.
I'd really like to talk to trichsters (other people with Trich) who are close to my age, 25. If you're not, it's okay...but I've never spoken to anyone with Trich (besides my sister) that is close to my age.
I'm also wondering if anyone else has low self-confidence. My confidence has definitely improved over the past couple years, thanks to confidence boosting exercises. However as far as boyfriends and dating go, I have low self-confidence because of my eyelashes. I get nervous and worried when someone looks at my eyes; when I have a boyfriend, I worry about what he really thinks about me having no eyelashes. Also, I worry that I'll get a spot on my head, and he'll think, "wtf."
Right now, there is a guy at work that I kind of like. I'd, at least, like to get to know him better. I overheard my officemate and another co-worker talking about how they think he likes me because he's always coming to talk to me. But I pulled almost all of my eyelashes out recently; and now, I've been avoiding him because I feel ashamed and I don't want him to see my eyes. I don't want him to think I hate him. I know I'll have to face him eventually, but I dread what he'll think. Anyway, there's many things I'd like to talk about with someone...and of course, particularly about Trich. I hope to hear a reply soon!
Thanks for reading my post!