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Im 14 & my parents still have not accepted me.
i guess im a "bulb eater"
i started in the 6th grade & i had a baldspot on the side of my head, my mom saw it & she started freaking out. my parents were yelling at me the whole night. i told them about "trich" & they said i was just using it as an excuse. i couldn't stop pulling, so my mom said she was gonna make my hair a certain way so everyone at my school would see my baldspot. my parents have refused to get me therapy, i still pull, my hair to this day, but not as much, my baldspot is all gone. everytime when my mom asks me if i pulled my hair again, i lie & say no. im afraid to tell her the truth. i hate lying to my mom, but if i told her about me pulling still, she would shave my head. i don't want my hair to be shaved. only 3 of my friends know, & they accepted it, why can't my parents?
Oh sweetie.... I send you
Oh sweetie.... I send you hugs. I am a parent and I pull. I have a husband and two children an they don't pull. I try to hide it, but I know they see. They don't understand the urge. Education on trich for your parents is key for them "trying to undrstand". There is so much information available to us now days......that would be my approach. HUGS!!
You poor thing. :( I'm 19 and
You poor thing. :( I'm 19 and I've been pulling since I was, oh, about 16. . I never told my friends.. Eventually they started to notice, but I understand the part about feeling like you have to lie to your mom... My mom doesn't always understand that it isn't an excuse- it's a legit problem of compulsion. They say "oh you can stop, just do it." Unfortunately, it doesn't usually work that way. I eventually stopped pulling from my head, and started in on my arms (which is not good by the way) and that's when it really got bad. I tried to tell them that I just couldn't get myself to stop. The biggest and worse response that I always got was to try harder, that I wasn't trying hard enough and that if I had more will power, that I could beat this thing.. It's a struggle, and I have permanent scars on my arms. Thankfully, my hair has almost grown back completely on my head. :) My mom still yells at me for pulling out my hair, or picking at my skin (I do that too) and I've gotten to the point that it doesn't bother me with the way I look to the point of embarrassment. I just want you to know that you definitely are not alone. I pray that you will find the support you need. :)
Good luck!
Sometimes parents don't want
Sometimes parents don't want to accept that their child hasn't grown up to be perfect, or suffering from something scary and hard to understand. If your parents cant be supportive, you will have to rely on the support of your friends and yourself to get through this and overcome it. Go to a free counselling group and speak privately to whoever is leading and ask if they can refer you to someone who would be more specialized in the topic. And as scary as shaving your head may seem, it may actually help. I am a female and I have shaved my head nearly bald twice now, there is ways to make it feminine and cute. :) Especially if you shave it yourself, your parents will see you are serious about this and perhaps see the light. If not, I'm sorry they couldn't love their daughter unconditionally, because you deserve no less, in spite of some habit. Chin up!